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Unpeeling Relationship Mysteries: Why Slow Questions Matter

If you’re a home cook like myself, you would know that onions are best sliced, not peeled, but where the analogy is applied to the area of relationships, it should be vice versa – peeled not sliced.

Nobody in their right mind would ask all the questions that they would want to ask someone throughout the course of their relationship on the first date. Doing so takes the “magic of mystery” out of the relationship as there would be little to no more questions that one would ask on the second date if there were plans to have a second date that is. That’s how we are wired out, if we knew the ending to the book in the first chapter, we are quite unlikely to continue reading chapter two.

If there are a hundred questions that one would ask in the lifecycle of a relationship before they would ask someone to marry them, then technically, they would have known just about everything that they would want to know about their partner in the first meeting and subsequently decide whether to marry or break it off with them on that first date.

Whilst it is true that people asks questions in a relationship to know someone better and to eventually assess them for compatibility and marriage, it is not a one way street as your partner would also have to have that opportunity to ask you their set of questions as well. That process of answering their hundred questions may prove unnerving as well as it stems from their own internal perspective rather than a shared build up structure of questions that build upon each question asked.

Relationships like peeling an onion, it takes time, and as inefficient as that is, it helps us get to process and tweak our hundred questions to perhaps better questions as the relationship progresses. If we take our time to get to know our partners, we get better answers calibrated through the passage of time, as opposed to the need for quick answers to meet the target of knowing everything that there was to know about someone that you like.

Getting Around Face ID

These days it’s become a real pain to unlock my iPhone with Face ID because my the visage of my face has been altered due to COVID-19 prevention measures.

No I don’t have COVID-19 (thankfully), but i have a face mask on practically everyday. And admittedly it is a real pain to be having to peel off the mask and do the Face ID scan just so that I could access the billion apps installed on my iPhone.

Thanks fully the brilliant guys came up with a hack for Apple fanboys and fangirls and that’s if you have an Apple Watch paired with your iPhone, it will be able to assist with unlocking your iPhone as a work around to the issue of wearing a face mask due to COVID-19 constraints.

The technology delivery was so seamless that I didn’t even remember when did I even requested for this or the folks at Apple just assumed that I would probably need this feature and asked me if I had wanted it to be turned on. It’s brilliant, I said that already.

Work it Out

COVID-19 challenges has largely changed the way we interact at work, interact with each other and how we connect with our co-workers, friends and loved ones. It’s the ultimate game-changer in terms of how we relate to each other.

If we are not front-line workers or in-service professionals, we would most likely be in a work from home arrangement. That basically throws out every notion that there are X, Y and Z managers and we move to an OKR modality.

Perhaps gone are the days where employees are measured by whether they are hardworking, lazy or a mixture of both qualities. There is perhaps an increasing transition to measuring them via objectives set by management, and measures of performance by way of key results. The outcome driven approach might be the better way to manage our workforce given that it is difficult for middle managers to police how employees work.

In the current work from home arrangement, employers have to allow their stay at home workers work it out on their own way and conduct regular check-ins to ensure that they are suitably engaged on the objectives and on their way to producing the outcomes required.

Ten Ways to be Rich

Ten Ways to be Rich

There are many ways to be rich. Here are ten quick and easy ways to be rich.

#1. Buy something for $1 and sell it to someone for $2. If you’re able to get someone to buy from you consistently at $2, then keep on repeating the process and scale up.

#2. Spend less. This is one of the tried and tested ways that people from over the years have been doing. They earn $1, but spend 80% of it, and therefore saves 20% of what they earn. If they are able to cut spending down to 60%, then they would have saved more and would therefore be richer.

#3. Buy the lottery. The only problem with this is that you have to consistently buy and give yourself the opportunity to win the lottery. This process of continuously buying lottery tickets may not be a good thing for you in the long run. But if you strike $1 million, then that’s a different story altogether.

#4. Buy a business. Usually buying a business requires a lot of money to begin with. So if you have the money to buy a business, you are already considered rich.

$5. Invest. The problem is, you do not have enough money to invest. And if you do, you may not know what is worth investing.

#6. Someone dies in your family and nominated you to be their sole beneficiary.

#7. Someone gives you $1 million, no questions asked.

#8. Invest in your job and continuously perform at your work to enjoy promotions and pay increment and performance bonuses.

#9. Start your own business, and create a niche for yourself and become rich.

#10. Print your own money.

 

And there you have it, ten simple ways to become a rich person.